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| {{About|the relationship concept|musical duo|Friendzone}} | |||
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| In popular culture, the "'''friend zone'''" refers to a ] wherein ]. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation by the lovelorn person.<ref name=twsFebX19/> Once the friend zone is established, it is said to be difficult to move beyond that point in a relationship. | |||
| ==Application== | |||
| There are differing explanations about what causes a person to be placed in the friend zone by another. It might result from misinterpreted signals or from a fear that a deeper relationship might jeopardize the friendship. A '']'' writer suggested there were several cases in which a man might become relegated to the friend zone: (1) the woman is not sufficiently attracted to the man, (2) the woman misinterprets ] from the man signaling his interest in deepening the relationship, (3) there is sexual repulsion (but not enough to block a friendship).<ref name=twsFebX18/> In a friendship between a man and a woman, being relegated to the ''friend zone'' can happen to either person.<ref name=twsFebX18>{{cite news | |||
| |author= GINA B. | |||
| |title= What's so bad about the friend zone? | |||
| |publisher= ''Chicago Tribune'' | |||
| |date= January 12, 2007 | |||
| |url= http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2007-01-12/news/0701120408_1_new-friends-attraction-friendship | |||
| |accessdate= 2011-02-24 | |||
| }}</ref> The zone has been described in this way: | |||
| {{quotation|When a guy agrees to be friends, he's forced to stifle his attraction while regularly seeing and talking to the woman he's attracted to. She discusses her love life and has the audacity to ask his advice on it. He performs occasional "manly" household and automotive favors for the women. Essentially, he does everything a boyfriend would do – without the benefits.|Gina B.|Chicago Tribune|2007<ref name=twsFebX18/>}} | |||
| Marshall Fine of '']'' suggested that the friend zone is "like the penalty box of dating, when your only crime is not being buff and unobtainable."<ref name=twsFebX24>{{cite news | |||
| |author= Marshall Fine | |||
| |title= HuffPost Review: Just Wright | |||
| |publisher= ''Huffington Post'' | |||
| |date= May 10, 2010 | |||
| |url= http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marshall-fine/huffpost-review-ijust-wri_b_569896.html | |||
| |accessdate= 2011-02-24 | |||
| }}</ref> Dating adviser Ali Binazir described the friend zone as '']'', and wrote that it's a "territory only to be rivaled in inhospitability by the western ], the ], and ]."<ref name=twsFebX19>{{cite news | |||
| |author= Ali Binazir M.D. M.Phil. | |||
| |title= How to stay out of the Friend Zone | |||
| |publisher= ''taoofdating.com'' | |||
| |date= February 2011 | |||
| |url= http://taoofdating.com/how-to-stay-out-of-friend-zone/ | |||
| |accessdate= 2011-02-24 | |||
| }}</ref> | |||
| One man described himself as always having girlfriends who were "girls" but were only his "friends", meaning there was no sex between them.<ref name=twsFebX21>{{cite news | |||
| |author= Mastin Kipp | |||
| |title= Choosing a Better Kind of Love | |||
| |publisher= ''Huffington Post'' | |||
| |date= June 3, 2010 | |||
| |url= http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mastin-kipp/love-choosing-a-better-ki_b_598693.html | |||
| |accessdate= 2011-02-24 | |||
| }}</ref> | |||
| There is general agreement that once a man is in the friend zone, it is difficult to get out.<ref name=twsFebX27>{{cite news | |||
| |author= Dr. Alex Benzer | |||
| |title= How Rich Guys Screw Up Their Chances with Women | |||
| |publisher= ''Huffington Post'' | |||
| |date= April 2, 2009 | |||
| |url= http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-alex-benzer/how-rich-guys-ruin-their_b_181386.html | |||
| |accessdate= 2011-02-24 | |||
| }}</ref> However, there was a report in '']'' magazine that suggested that a friend-only relation could change into a sexual one.<ref name=Cosmomagazine/> It was based in part on a 2001 ] survey in which 71% of respondents hoped that they would fall in love with a friend.<ref name=Cosmomagazine>{{cite news | |||
| |url=http://www.accessmylibrary.com/coms2/summary_0286-15951082_ITM | |||
| |title=When you fall for a guy pal: the "just friends" zone is like relationship quicksand, but you can get out with a few strategic maneuvers. | |||
| |publisher=] | |||
| |accessdate=2008-01-14 | |||
| | date=2006-06-01}}</ref> It has also been suggested that women may also become victims of the "friend zone", in which a man treats them as only a friend, while the woman prefers a more intimate relationship.<ref>, AskMen.com</ref><ref name=twsFebX22>{{cite news | |||
| |author= Emily Yahr | |||
| |title= The CW's 'Plain Jane,' a not-so-extreme makeover show | |||
| |publisher= ''Washington Post'' | |||
| |quote= she harbors a hard-core crush on her buddy Ty, who has categorized her in "the friend zone" since college. | |||
| |date= July 25, 2010 | |||
| |url= http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/07/22/AR2010072206828.html | |||
| |accessdate= 2011-02-24 | |||
| }}</ref> | |||
| Despite the pitfalls of friend zones, there have been views advanced that a ''friend zone'' relation can evolve from "the lingering possibility of becoming more than a friend" into something deeper, particularly if the friend-zone friendship leads to a long term feeling of trustworthiness and intimacy.<ref>{{cite web | |||
| |url=http://www.manhelper.com/dating_sex/5_reasons_why_being_in_the_friend_zone_is_a_good_thing | |||
| |title=5 Reasons Why Being in the Friend Zone is a Good Thing | |||
| |publisher=] | |||
| |accessdate=2012-06-30}}</ref> | |||
| ==Popular culture== | |||
| The term "friend zone" was popularized by a 1994 episode of the American ] '']'' entitled "]", where the character ], who was ] for ], was described by character ] as being the "mayor of the friend zone".<ref>{{cite web | |||
| |url=http://www.tv.com/friends/the-one-with-the-blackout/episode/351/recap.html | |||
| |title=Friends: The One With the Blackout Recap | |||
| |publisher=] | |||
| |accessdate=2008-01-14}}</ref> The question of whether a man can ever "escape the friend zone and begin dating one of his female friends" helped make the "geek dream couple"<ref>{{cite web | |||
| |url=http://tv.ign.com/articles/764/764349p2.html | |||
| |title=IGN's Top 10 Favorite TV Couples | |||
| |publisher=] | |||
| |accessdate=2008-01-14}}</ref> of Ross and Rachel storyline compelling dramatically, according to one view. Comedian ] talked about men being trapped in the friend zone in his 1996 album '']''. The television show '']'' used the term on the episode entitled "My Best Friend's Mistake" in which the character ] explained that after an important turning point happens in the relationship between a man and a woman, there are less than 48 hours to do something about it or else the man will be stuck in the woman's friend zone forever. J.D. doesn't get to finish kissing his unrequited love, ], in 48 hours, so he entered into an imaginary "Friend Zone" hospital room filled with other men who had similarly become stuck in Elliot's friend zone. | |||
| The 2005 film '']'' main character, played by ], reunited after ten years with his friend played by ], who informs him that she loves him "like a brother", essentially dashing any hopes of him having her as a girlfriend.<ref>, RadioFree.com Interviews (Nov. 5, 2005)</ref> The movie '']'' explored the theme of whether men and women could be friends without being lovers. | |||
| In May 2011, ] had a show entitled ]. In an interview with a national publication, a producer said: | |||
| {{Quote|The idea for the show came out of my own experience. Unfortunately, I know the pain of telling the girl of your dreams you love them and want to take the relationship to the next level only to be told they don't feel the same. I figured if it happened to me, it might be something others could relate to as well. If it works, you have the beginnings of a great love story. If it doesn't, well, pain and humiliation make great TV, too."|an MTV producer<ref></ref>}} | |||
| In the 2010 ]-sitcom '']'', the character of James described the friend zone as "a dark place, where you give girls rides to the airport, talk about their ex-boyfriends and help them move in", without ever having a chance to become a couple. The band ] made a song known as "Friend Zone" in 2012 about a band member's crush with another girl. | |||
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