Katherine Doyley Dyer (b.c. 1585-1654) notable for the epitaph she placed on her husband's tomb at Colmworth, Bedfordshire, England
Katherine was one of the four daughters of John Doyley (d. 1593) and Anne Barnard, and was a co-heir of the Doyley estate at Merton. After the death of John Doyley, in 1601, her sister Margaret Doyley married Edward Harington of Ridlington and her mother Anne Barnard married James Harington (1542–1614), the father of Edward Harington, in a double wedding. Her other sisters were Anne and Elizabeth.
On 25 February 1602 Katherine Doyley married Sir William Dyer, son of Sir Richard Dyer of Great Staughton.
Sir William died on 9 April 1621. In 1641 Katherine placed the epitaph, which she may have composed, known as "My Dearest Dust" on their monument at the Church of St Denys, Colmworth.
- If a large hart, joined with a noble minde
- Shewing true worth unto all good inclin’d
- If faith in friendship, justice unto all,
- Leave such a memory as we may call
- Happy, thine is; then pious marble keepe
- His just fame waking, though his lov’d dust sleepe.
- And though death can devoure all that hath breath,
- And monuments them selves have had a death,
- Nature shan’t suffer this, to ruinate,
- Nor time demolish’t, nor an envious fate,
- Rais’d by a just hand, not vain glorious pride,
- Who’d be concealed, wer’t modesty to hide
- Such an affection did so long survive
- The object of ’t; yet lov’d it as alive.
- And this greate blessing to his name doth give
- To make it by his tombe, and issue live.
- My dearest dust, could not thy hasty day
- Afford thy drowsy patience leave to stay
- One hour longer, so that we might either
- Have sat up or gone to bed together?
- But since thy finished labour hath possessed
- Thy weary limbs with early rest,
- Enjoy it sweetly, and thy widow bride
- Shall soon repose her by thy slumbering side,
- Whose business now is only to prepare
- My nightly dress and call to prayer.
- Mine eyes wax heavy, and the day grows old,
- The dew falls thick, my blood grows cold,
- Draw, draw the closed curtains and make room,
- My dear, my dearest dust, I come, I come.
In her will, Katherine mentioned, "her losses had become very great since those last troubles" of the Civil War. She died in 1654.
Family
The seven children of Katherine Doyley Dyer and William Dyer commemorated by effigy on the tomb at Colmworth were;
- Sir Ludowick Dyer (10 March 1606-1670), who married Elizabeth Yelverton, and was the first and last Dyer baronet of Staughton. Katherine and Elizabeth were mentioned with other women of the Harington / Sidney family in the will of William Mason of Westminster in 1630. Ludowick and Elizabeth's only son Henry died in 1637 and is commemorated on the monument at Colmworth.
- Doyley Dyer (1613-1684).
- Richard Dyer (b. 1608) married Elizabeth (d. 1685).
- James Dyer (b. 1617).
- Anne or Anna Dyer (1611-1684), married William Gery of Bushmeade Priory. Their children included; William, Richard, Katherine, Ann, and Mary
- Katherine Dyer (b. 1619), married Sir Edward Coke of Longford, Derbyshire.
- Mary Dyer, married a Mr Wardour.
References
- Jane Stevenson & Peter Dyer, Early Modern Women Poets (1520-1700): An Anthology (Oxford, 2001), pp. 222-4.
- John Dunkin, Oxfordshire: The history and antiquities of the hundreds of Bullington and Ploughley, vol. 2 (London, 1823), p. 5.
- Lauren Kassell, Michael Hawkins, Robert Ralley, John Young, Joanne Edge, Janet Yvonne Martin-Portugues, and Natalie Kaoukji (eds.), ‘Lady Catherine Dyer (PERSON29811)’, The casebooks of Simon Forman and Richard Napier, 1596–1634, accessed 18 August 2019.
- Susan Dunn Hensley, 'Katherine D'Oyley Dyer', in Carole Levin, Anna Riehl Bertolet, Jo Eldridge Carney, A Biographical Encyclopedia of Early Modern Englishwomen (Abingdon, 2017) p. 571.
- “My Dearest Dust”: Lady Katherine Dyer and Her Epitaph to Her Beloved Husband, Johann Wiserr
- "My Dearest Dust", Poetry Foundation
- Jane Stevenson & Peter Davidson, Early Modern Women Poets (1520-1700): An Anthology (Oxford, 2001). pp. 223-4.
- Susan Dunn Hensley, 'Katherine D'Oyley Dyer', in Carole Levin, Anna Riehl Bertolet, Jo Eldridge Carney, A Biographical Encyclopedia of Early Modern Englishwomen (Abingdon, 2017) p. 571.
- Lauren Kassell, Michael Hawkins, Robert Ralley, John Young, Joanne Edge, Janet Yvonne Martin-Portugues, and Natalie Kaoukji (eds.), ‘Lodowick Dyer (PERSON48231)’, The casebooks of Simon Forman and Richard Napier, 1596–1634: a digital edition, accessed 18 August 2019.
- Will of 'William Mason, Gentleman of Westminster, Middlesex', 2 February 1630, TNA PROB 11/157/110.
- Jane Stevenson & Peter Dyer, Early Modern Women Poets (1520-1700): An Anthology (Oxford, 2001), pp. 222-4.
- E. H. Martin, 'Dyer Family', Notes & Queries for Somerset and Dorset, vol. 10, (Sherborne, 1907) no. 99 pp. 145-157 at p. 147, 148-9.