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Mary Anna Custis Lee
Born	Mary Anna Randolph Custis (1807-10-01)October 1, 1807 Annefield in Boyce, Virginia, U.S.
Died	November 5, 1873(1873-11-05) (aged 66) Lexington, Virginia, U.S.
Resting place	University Chapel Washington and Lee University Lexington, Virginia, U.S.
Notable work	Recollections and Private Memoirs of Washington, by his Adopted Son George Washington Parke Custis, with a Memoir of this Author by his Daughter (1859)
Spouse	Robert E. Lee ​ ​(m. 1831; died 1870)​
Children	George Mary William Robert Jr. Anne Eleanor Mildred
Parents	George Washington Parke Custis Mary Lee Fitzhugh Custis
Relatives	Martha Washington (great-grandmother)

Mary Anna Randolph Custis Lee (October 1, 1807 – November 5, 1873) was the wife of the Confederate general Robert E. Lee and the last private owner of Arlington Estate. She was the daughter of George Washington Parke Custis who was the grandson of Martha Washington, the wife of George Washington. Lee was a highly educated woman, who edited and published her father's writings after his death.

Mary married Robert E. Lee in 1831 at her parents' home, Arlington House in Virginia. The couple had seven children. Although she sometimes lived with Lee when he was assigned elsewhere, she preferred to reside at Arlington House with her parents. Robert E. Lee resigned from his commission with the U.S. Army to serve his home state of Virginia during the American Civil War; he eventually commanded the Confederate Army of Northern Virginia.

Mary Lee was separated from her husband for the majority of the war, and she and her children were forced to stay with various family friends to avoid for the majority of the war. She was never able to return to Arlington House, as it was seized by the United States federal government at the end of the war. After the war, Robert E. Lee became the president of Washington College, and died in 1870. Mary Lee died three years later 1873.

Life

Early life and ancestry

Mary Anna Randolph Custis Lee was the only surviving child of George Washington Parke Custis (the grandson of Martha Washington and the step-grandson of George Washington) and Mary Lee Fitzhugh Custis, daughter of William Fitzhugh and Ann Bolling Randolph Fitzhugh. Her godmother, Mary Randolph, was the first person buried at Arlington Estate. She wrote a book on housekeeping and cooking. Lee's birth year is usually shown as 1808, but it recorded as 1807 in the Custis family Bible, her mother's papers, and is referred to in a letter her mother wrote in the autumn of 1807. She was born at Annefield in Clarke County, Virginia when her mother's coach stopped there during a journey.

Lee was descended from several prominent southern colonial families, including those of Parke Custis, Fitzhugh, Dandrige, Randolph, Rolfe, and Gerard. Through her paternal grandmother, Eleanor Calvert, she descended from Charles Calvert, 5th Baron Baltimore, making her a descendant of Charles II of England and Scotland. Through her mother, Mary Lee Fitzhugh Custis, she was a descendant of William Fitzhugh.

Marriage and later life

Mary had known her third cousin Robert E. Lee since their childhood. Her mother and Robert Lee's mother were second cousins. Lee's father, "Light-Horse Harry" Lee, a hero of the American Revolutionary War, delivered the eulogy at George Washington's funeral. She married Robert E. Lee in 1831 at her parents' home, Arlington House. At the time, Robert E. Lee was a lieutenant in the U.S. Army Engineers. Among Mary Lee's other suitors was Sam Houston.

Lee was a well educated woman, having learned both Latin and Greek. She enjoyed discussing politics with her father, and later with her husband. She kept current with the new literature.

Lee inherited Arlington House from her father when he died in 1857. The estate had been the couple's home during her husband's military career. She was a gracious hostess and enjoyed frequent visitors. She was a painter, like her father, and painted many landscapes, some of which are still on view at the house. She loved roses and grew many varieties of trees and flowers in the gardens there.

After her father's death, she edited and published his writings as Recollections and Private Memoirs of Washington, by his Adopted Son George Washington Parke Custis, with a Memoir of this Author by his Daughter in 1859.

Deeply religious, Lee attended Episcopal services when there was one near the army post. From Arlington, Virginia, the Lees attended Christ Church in Alexandria, which she and Robert had both attended in childhood.

Lee taught her female slaves to read and write and was an advocate of eventual emancipation. However, she did not work to support abolition or racial equality and did not free any of her slaves before the abolition of slavery in 1865.

She suffered from rheumatoid arthritis, which became increasingly debilitating with advancing age. By 1861, she was using a wheelchair.

With the advent of the U.S. Civil War, Mary Custis Lee delayed evacuating Arlington House until May 15, 1861. She left many family heirlooms (including items owned by George Washington) in the hands of Selina Grey, her enslaved housekeeper. Early that month, Robert wrote to his wife saying:

War is inevitable, and there is no telling when it will burst around you ... You have to move and make arrangements to go to some point of safety which you must select. The Mount Vernon plate and pictures ought to be secured. Keep quiet while you remain, and in your preparations ... May God keep and preserve you and have mercy on all our people.

Lee and her daughters initially moved among the several family plantations. In May 1862, she was caught at her son Rooney's White House plantation in New Kent County behind the Federal lines, as Union forces moved up the York and the Pamunkey rivers toward Richmond. The Union commander, George B. McClellan, allowed her passage through the lines in order to take up residence in Richmond—the city which was also McClellan's campaign goal.

Lee and her daughters settled at 707 East Franklin Street in Richmond for a time. The family next moved to the plantation estate of the Cocke family at Bremo Bluff, where they sought refuge until after the end of the war in November 1865.

After the war, the Lees lived in Powhatan County for a short time before moving to Lexington. Robert E. Lee became president of the Washington College, later renamed Washington and Lee University.

Arlington House was seized by the United States federal government after the war to allow for the creation of Arlington National Cemetery. Lee attempted to regain ownership of her family home by writing to "friends, relatives, newspaper editors, and politicians," to no avail. Similarly, she was never able to regain ownership of family heirlooms that had once belonged to George Washington. Lee visited Arlington House one last time in 1873, a few months before her death. She was unable to leave her horse carriage due to her debilitating rheumatoid arthritis, hardly recognizing the estate except for a few old oaks and some of the trees that she and Robert had planted.

Mary Anna Custis Lee died at the age of 66 in 1873, surviving her husband by three years. She was buried next to him in the Lee family crypt at University Chapel on the campus of Washington and Lee University.

Marriage and family

Mary and Robert were married at her parents' home, Arlington House, on June 30, 1831. They had three sons and four daughters together: George Washington Custis "Custis", William H. Fitzhugh "Rooney", Robert Edward Jr., Mary, Eleanor Agnes (called Agnes), Anne, and Mildred Lee. None of their daughters married.

• Mary Anna Custis Lee and her son, Robert E. Lee, Jr., c. 1845
• Rooney Lee, about 8 years old, with his father Robert E. Lee, 1845
• Major General George Washington Custis Lee (1832–1913)
• Major General William Henry Fitzhugh Lee (1837–1891)
• Anne Carter Lee (1839–1862)
• Captain Robert E. Lee Jr. (1843–1914)

Ancestry

Cultural references

Harnett Kane's 1953 novel, The Lady of Arlington, is based on Mrs. Lee's life.

Mary Custis Lee is a major supporting character in The Guns of the South, a 1992 science fiction novel by Harry Turtledove.

Dorothy Love's 2016 novel, Mrs. Lee and Mrs. Gray, is based on Lee's dependence upon and friendship with Selina Norris Gray, a Custis family slave who became Lee's housekeeper and confidante.

Mary Anna Custis Lee plays a minor role in Jeff Shaara’s 1996 novel Gods and Generals.

References

1. Perry, John. Mrs. Robert E. Lee : The Lady of Arlington. Multnomah Publishers, 2003. ISBN 1-59052-137-4.
2. "William Fitzhugh". Fredericksburg and Spotsylvania National Military Park, National Park Service. Retrieved 2009-07-13.
3. Virginia Historic Landmarks Commission Staff (July 1969). "National Register of Historic Places Inventory/Nomination: Annefield" (PDF). Virginia Historic Landmarks Commission. Archived from the original (PDF) on 2013-08-13. Retrieved 2013-06-19.
4. Arlington House: The Robert E. Lee Memorial. Government Printing Office. 1986. p. 20. ISBN 9780912627236.
5. Henry Lee, "Eulogy for George Washington Archived 2012-02-28 at the Wayback Machine
6. ^ "Mary Anna Randolph Custis Lee - Arlington House, The Robert E. Lee Memorial (U.S. National Park Service)". www.nps.gov. Retrieved 2024-03-08.
7. DeVito, Carlo (2015). Mrs. Lee's Rose Garden: The True Story of the Founding of Arlington National Cemetery. Simon & Schuster. p. 12. ISBN 9781604335606. Retrieved May 23, 2016.
8. Custis, G.W. Parke. Recollections and Private Memoirs of Washington by G. W. Parke Custis, of Arlington. Compiled from Files of the National Intelligencer, etc. Washington: William H. Moore, 2007. ASIN B000ITPZ4Y.
9. "Historic Christ Church: History". historicchristchurch.org. Christ Church, Alexandria. Retrieved December 15, 2014.
10. Lee, Captain Robert E. (son). Recollections and Letters of General Robert E. Lee. New York, Doubleday, Page & Company, 1904. ISBN 978-1-4326-2231-2
11. Thompson, Mary V. (August 22, 2006). "Statements by Washington/Custis Family Members Concerning Religion, God, Life, Death, Charity, and Morality" (PDF). The Mount Vernon Ladies' Association. Archived from the original (PDF) on August 4, 2010. Retrieved December 6, 2010.
12. Holen, O.T. (June 26, 2008). "Mrs. Robert E. Lee's Visit(s) to Bremo Bluff". Fluvanna Review. Retrieved December 4, 2010.
13. DeVito, Carlo (2015). Mrs. Lee's Rose Garden: The True Story of the Founding of Arlington National Cemetery. Simon & Schuster. pp. 91–94. ISBN 9781604335606. Retrieved May 23, 2016.
14. Smith, Gene (July–August 1996). "General Lee's Daughters". American Heritage. 47: Issue 4.
15. Picture ID Authority of N.P.S. Arlington House Robert E Lee memorial
16. "Hartnett T. Kane (1910-1984)". librarything.com. Retrieved August 2, 2014.
17. Love, Dorothy (2016). MRS. Lee and MRS. Gray. Center Point Large Print. ISBN 978-1683240662.

External links

• Lee Family Digital Archive
• Collection of Mary Custis Lee digitized letters
• Correspondences of Mary Anna Custis Lee during the American Civil War - held in the Walter Havighurst Special Collections, Miami University

• 1807 births
• 1873 deaths
• 19th-century American Episcopalians
• 19th-century American women
• American socialites
• People from Arlington County, Virginia
• Bolling family of Virginia
• Burials at University Chapel
• Custis family of Virginia
• Fitzhugh family of Virginia
• Lee family of Virginia
• Randolph family of Virginia
• Washington family
• People from Lexington, Virginia
• Women in the American Civil War
• Women slave owners
• American slave owners